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Jaimie Cahlil

Registered Psychotherapist

  • 1 Cardwell Crescent, Oxford, OX3 7QE
  • Multiple times available +
    • Mon
      10am-12:50pm
      ,
      5pm-8:50pm
    • Tue
      8:30am-12:30pm
      ,
      5pm-8:50pm
  • Individual £55
  • 47% of enquirers became verified clients
I am currently not taking on new clients in Oxford.

I have availability in Cheltenham, or you can look for another therapist via the Find a Therapist search.

What to Expect

An introductory assessment meeting helps you to see if you are comfortable with me, discuss what concerns you, ask questions, clarify confidentiality, and determine if therapy could assist you. Please use a contact option on the right to book a preliminary assessment meeting in Oxford or Cheltenham.

Counselling

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) suggests counselling for Depression.

Counselling centres on listening to you, and assisting you. You decide which issue regarding your early years and/or adult life you explore. An aim of counselling is to help you to talk about a difficulty and discover a way forward which is right for you.

Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy focuses on you, and you gaining insight into the difficulties you face. It explores your ideas, feelings and significant moments in your life. Psychotherapy aims to help you change or discover appropriate ways of managing.

Therapy

  • Stress
  • Social Anxiety
  • Self Harm
  • Self Esteem
  • Schizophrenia
  • Relationship Problems
  • Anxiety
  • Borderline Personality
  • Bereavement
  • Anger

Thoughts on Mental Health

As August moves towards September, many of us feel reluctant - psychologically unprepared for summer's departure, with its inevitable passage towards autumn. While some delight in autumn, and feel able to welcome September as autumn's gentle gateway, others do not. Perhaps there are past associations, such as the freedom of school summer holidays ending as September arrives. If you experience reluctance, you may find it helpful to acknowledge how our seasons create flow and fluctuation, variety and difference in our lives.
Read More: How to mentally prepare for September and stave off the post-summer blues
Such messages - often followed by 'There are lots of people in this world far worse off than you, and they carry on', or 'We all feel down sometimes, but we carry on!' - are usually well-meaning, but they are patronising and dismissive of genuine suffering. When someone is inwardly struggling, and very likely feel isolated and unsupported already, these kinds of messages will only worsen their present state of being, when actually they need to feel seen and card about, and that their struggle is validated.
Read More: What not to say to someone with mental health problems
Mindfulness, a profoundly empowering and healthy attitude to being and living, is a core ingredient in traditional Buddhist teachings and practice. If a person is in a particularly unstable psychological state, I find teaching simple physical, present moment mindfulness helps them to anchor and stabilise themselves, as it offers basic clarity and calming reassurance.
Read More: Mental Health Awareness Week: A more mindful approach to therapy
When an LGBT person wishes to find a therapist, it can really make a huge difference when that therapist has some kind of experiential understanding of the issues that may arise from either the individual's sexual orientation and/or their gender identity. This is particularly the case with gender identity, in my experience, as the therapist who is able to draw on not just professional training but also experiential material is most likely to have a depth of understanding, plus helpful insights and suggestions to offer.
Read More: LGBT History Month: Mental health and lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans identity
Choose whatever colour brings you a sense of warmth, or fun, and vitality; wear this colour on Monday and throughout the rest of the week, or month, until winter ends and spring arrives. Choose consciously whatever seems to exude energy, be it food, music, screen-savers, or whatever. Because the mind is very suggestible, each thought triggers emotional responses and subtle changes in bodily energy.
Read More: Blue Monday: Ten tips on how to get through the 'most depressing day of the year'
This way you'll be engaging deeply in your resolution, and sending your deeper mind powerful messages that say 'I am', rather than 'I'm trying to', which is a get-out. A New Year's resolution creates a psychological fresh start, and for many people this really challenges your sense of identify and your relationship with yourself. What I find helps support and strengthen any new - or renewed - resolution is to work to develop a healthier relationship with yourself, and this is where working with a therapist can make a real difference.
Read More: New Year 2015: The psychology of New Year's resolutions
When someone struggles with overeating and we explore this in therapy, and often becomes apparent is that they are replacing their unfilled emotional needs with food. I call this 'mismatching'. Awareness of this mismatching in your impulses may enable you to choose to MATCH your need instead.
Read More: Could therapy help you lose weight? The psychology of overeating explained
Imagine your constant companion throughout life - YOU - as your very closest friend. How about you resolve, this New Year, to develop the healthiest relationship you can with your closest friend. Learn to smile within your heart as you observe, with compassionate understanding, your fallible, imperfect human self doing being! Drawing on both personal and professional experience, I have noticed how treating yourself in this way has immense and profound therapeutic, relaxing and calming effects, not just on your own being but also on your relationships with other people and your world.
Read More: 10 New Year's resolutions to boost your mental wellbeing in 2015
Our pets are available to us as teachers, who model a simple, healthy attitude towards life. You may notice how your pet is swiftly alert and poised for action the instant they pick up any threat to their safety and well being, and how, as soon as the presenting uncertainty or danger is gone, they relax! No creature - other than ourselves - uses up precious energy worrying in advance about what might or might not happen in the future. Our pets live in the present. When you learn to return to the present moment, whenever there is nothing urgent you need to attend to, then your anxieties will lessen as you relax.
Read More: Why having a pet could be great for your mental health
Send someone a card, for no other reason than to voice your appreciation of their being in your world - just as they are! When we recognise and appreciate another's being, this kind of gift is deeply warming and healing.
Read More: National Kindness Day: Eight simple, everyday acts of kindness to boost your mental wellbeing

Qualifications

September
2009
UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) Registered Psychotherapist
December
2008
Diploma
Counselling and Psychotherapy
Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (UK)
July
2003
Diploma
Counselling
Northern Council for Further Education (UK)

Jaimie abides by the Code of Ethics of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).

Location Detail


My Consulting Address is in easy reach of

Headington, Old Marston, Oxford Business Park South, Risinghurst, Oxford, Oxford Business Park North, Cowley, Oxfordshire, Iffley, Marston, Elsfield, Horspath, South Hinksey, Blackbird Leys, North Hinksey Village, Littlemore, Stanton Saint John, Woodeaton, Binsey, Woodperry

Nearest Train Stations

  • Oxford (2.1 miles)
  • Islip (4.9 miles)
  • Radley (4.9 miles)
  • Culham (7.1 miles)
  • Hanborough (8.1 miles)
  • Appleford (8.1 miles)
  • Combe (Oxfordshire) (9.1 miles)
  • Tackley (9.3 miles)
  • Bicester Town (10 miles)
  • Bicester North (10.6 miles)


Wheelchair access: Yes

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Consulting Room of Oxford Registered Psychotherapist Jaimie

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Updated 17 September 2018