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Ralph Holtom - Registered Psychotherapist

Ralph Holtom
Registered Psychotherapist

  • Flat 98 Devonport, 23 Southwick Street, Marble Arch, London, W2 2QH Show Map
  • Multiple times available +
    • Thu
  • Individual £70 Couple £98
  • 37% of enquirers became verified clients
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What to Expect

Try one session, to see if you feel comfortable with Ralph, and decide if therapy may help you.


The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) suggests counselling for Depression.

Counselling centres on listening to you, and assisting you. You determine which issue concerning your childhood and/or adulthood you explore. An objective of counselling is to enable you to speak about a difficulty and find a solution that is right for you.

Psychodynamic Therapy

NICE suggests psychodynamic therapy for Depression.

Psychodynamic therapy focuses on the unconscious causes of the problems you encounter. It facilitates you in becoming conscious of aspects of your inner dynamics. Psychodynamic therapy seeks to enhance your self-understanding to give you options.


Psychotherapy focuses on you, and you obtaining insight into the difficulties you confront. It considers your ideas, emotions and significant events in your history. Psychotherapy aims to help you develop or discover appropriate ways of managing.


  • Abuse
  • Anger
  • Bereavement
  • Anxiety
  • Narcissistic Personality
  • Relationship Problems
  • Self Esteem
  • Sexual Problems
  • Stress

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Thoughts on Mental Health

Narcissism commonly arises from a substantial experience of neglect, deprivation, abuse or active hostility at an early stage of life. In essence, the disregard felt from the supposed caregiver is so unbearable that you, as a growing child, were faced with a terrible dilemma; either you accept that the caregiver is bad and reject them, or you accept what you are 'told', and therefore conclude that you yourself must be bad. The narcissist takes the second choice, and hatred rather than love becomes the ruling emotion. This is so painful that you may defensively react against it, leading to the grandiosity and omnipotence which we so commonly associate with this most painful condition. Much of its pain comes from isolation, which is self-imposed because close relationships will feel very threatening - both because if someone gets close they may glimpse the 'truth' of your inner badness, but also because your need to feel superior does not allow you, the narcissist, to risk appreciating the qualities of others. Paradoxically, narcissists can be very seductive; flattery and charm attract admirers, whose attentions help to keep your fear of the bad person you believe that you really are from breaking through.
Read More: Therapists explain common causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder


Association of Independent Psychotherapists (UK)
UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) Registered Psychotherapist
Counselling - Psychodynamic
WPF Therapy (UK)

Ralph Holtom abides by the Code of Ethics of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).

Location Detail

My Consulting Address is in easy reach of

Paddington, Lancaster Gate, Hyde Park, Marylebone, Marble Arch, Oxford Street, Baker Street, Warwick Avenue, Bayswater, Park Lane, Westbourne Green, Bond Street, Harley Street, Regent's Park, West End, Regents Park, Belgravia, Maida Vale, Mayfair, Fitzrovia

Nearest Train Stations

  • London Marylebone (0.6 miles)
  • London Paddington (0.7 miles)
  • Camden Road (1.6 miles)
  • Kilburn High Road (1.7 miles)
  • South Hampstead (1.8 miles)
  • London Victoria (1.8 miles)
  • London Euston (1.8 miles)
  • Queen's Park (London) (1.9 miles)
  • Kensington (Olympia) (2.1 miles)
  • London Charing Cross (2.1 miles)

Nearest London Underground Tube Stations

  • Paddington (0.3 miles)
  • Edgware Road (Circle/District/H&C) (0.3 miles)
  • Edgware Road (Bakerloo) (0.3 miles)
  • Lancaster Gate (0.4 miles)
  • Marylebone (0.5 miles)

Wheelchair access: Yes

Consulting Rooms (by appointment) also at

Updated 26 November 2018