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Dr. Ralph Holtom
Psychotherapist in Colchester - Registered 12+ Years

Registered Psychotherapist Ralph Holtom
9 Baronia Croft
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  • Individual £60 - 50 minutes
  • Couple £75 - 50 minutes
38% of enquirers became verified clients

Working Hours

  • Tuesdays
    2pm - 7pm
  • Wednesdays
    8am - 1pm

Issue Covered

  • Abuse
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement
  • Depression
  • Narcissistic Personality
  • Relationship Problems
  • Self Esteem
  • Sexual Problems
  • Stress


  • Counselling
  • Psychotherapy
  • Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Psychoanalytic Therapy

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12+ Years Post-Registration Experience

Hello. I am Ralph Holtom. I'm a registered psychotherapist - I assist individuals and couples with their psychological health. I hold private sector experience as a psychotherapist. My interest includes abuse, relationship problems and self esteem, and the specific difficulties experienced by men and women.

What to Expect

A preliminary assessment session helps you to see if you feel comfortable with me, share what worries you, ask questions, understand confidentiality, and determine if therapy could help you. Please use a contact option on the right to book a preliminary assessment appointment in Colchester or Marble Arch, London.


Counselling centres on listening to you, and assisting you. You determine which issue concerning your childhood and/or adulthood you explore. An objective of counselling is to enable you to speak about a difficulty and find a solution that is right for you.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) (England and Wales) recommends counselling for depression.

Psychoanalytic Therapy

Psychoanalytic therapy concentrates on the unconscious causes of the problems you encounter. It fosters your awareness of parts of your unconscious. An objective of psychoanalytic therapy is for you to gain personal insight and utilise it if you decide to.

Psychodynamic Therapy

Psychodynamic therapy focuses on the unconscious causes of the problems you encounter. It facilitates you in becoming conscious of aspects of your inner dynamics. Psychodynamic therapy seeks to enhance your self-understanding to give you options.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) (England and Wales) suggests psychodynamic therapy for depression.


Psychotherapy focuses on you, and you obtaining insight into the difficulties you confront. It considers your ideas, emotions and significant events in your history. Psychotherapy aims to help you develop or discover appropriate ways of managing.

Thoughts on Mental Health

Narcissism commonly arises from a substantial experience of neglect, deprivation, abuse or active hostility at an early stage of life. In essence, the disregard felt from the supposed caregiver is so unbearable that you, as a growing child, were faced with a terrible dilemma; either you accept that the caregiver is bad and reject them, or you accept what you are 'told', and therefore conclude that you yourself must be bad. The narcissist takes the second choice, and hatred rather than love becomes the ruling emotion. This is so painful that you may defensively react against it, leading to the grandiosity and omnipotence which we so commonly associate with this most painful condition. Much of its pain comes from isolation, which is self-imposed because close relationships will feel very threatening - both because if someone gets close they may glimpse the 'truth' of your inner badness, but also because your need to feel superior does not allow you, the narcissist, to risk appreciating the qualities of others. Paradoxically, narcissists can be very seductive; flattery and charm attract admirers, whose attentions help to keep your fear of the bad person you believe that you really are from breaking through.
Read More: Therapists explain common causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Qualifications Timeline

Society of Analytical Psychology (UK)
Psychotherapy - Psychoanalytic
Association of Independent Psychotherapists (UK)
UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) Registered Psychotherapist
Counselling - Psychodynamic
WPF Therapy (UK)

Ralph abides by the Code of Ethics of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).

Location Detail

My Consulting Address is in easy reach of

Highwoods, Fox Street, Greenstead Estate, Mile End, Greenstead, Colchester, Crockleford Heath, Braiswick, Old Heath, Langham, Great Horkesley, Ardleigh, Lexden, West Bergholt, Elmstead, Lamb Corner, Blackheath, Shrub End, Elmstead Market, Rowhedge

Nearest Train Stations

  • Colchester (1.4 miles)
  • Hythe (Essex) (1.5 miles)
  • Colchester Town (1.7 miles)
  • Wivenhoe (3.8 miles)
  • Alresford (Essex) (4.9 miles)
  • Manningtree (6.1 miles)
  • Marks Tey (6.1 miles)
  • Chappel and Wakes Colne (7.1 miles)
  • Great Bentley (7.2 miles)
  • Mistley (7.2 miles)

Wheelchair access: Yes

Updated 27 March 2018